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by Queen Evans
Quite often, the groom will find himself feeling just a little neglected during the planning of the wedding itself. Once he has popped the question and been accepted, then the planning begins and he may well feel left out. Make sure to include and consult him on a regular basis. The groom's role is obviously vital to the occasion, and he will have many responsibilities. He must choose his best man with care and also the ushers. Traditionally the groom is responsible for paying for such things as church fees, organist, bell ringers, license and the gifts for the groomsmen. In addition, the groom often pays for the bridal bouquet, transport for himself and the best man to the ceremony, transport for himself and his bride to the reception and the honeymoon.
The groom is the second most important person on this special day. Obviously, the bride will expect every eye to be focused on her, but the groom is equally important. He is responsible for the purchase of the wedding rings and it is important for him to be included by the bride and her parents in the planning stage. Although technically, the planning of the wedding itself is the role of the bride and her parents, the groom must be consulted on his ideas and plans. He is responsible for the buying or hiring of his wedding clothes and that of the best man and ushers. It is wise to organize this in very good time and to check that all the measurements are correct, if hiring.
It is traditional also for the groom to buy the bridal bouquet. The flowers included must be the bride's choice of course, but the groom must pay! The choice of transport from the reception to the destination, either hotel, airport or station is usually made by the couple, but the groom is responsible for booking or arranging the transport. The planning and booking for the honeymoon and everything connected with it is next on the list. A lot of couples choose their destination together, but sometimes the groom likes to surprise the bride. Whatever the decision, the groom's responsibilities include checking that the passports are all in order, traveler's checks, and inoculations are done, if needed.
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Well, the wedding is over, the good folks are joined for better for worse—a shocking clause that!—’tis preparing one to lead a long journey, and to know the path is not altogether strewed with roses.
| —Frances Burney (1752–1840) |
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The groom and his best man will be required to arrive at the church or venue before the bride and her attendants. At the rehearsal, usually held the day before, the clergyman will have explained all the places and everyone should know where to stand and sit. The florist should have delivered the buttonholes for the ushers to hand out to the guests and the church will be beautifully decorated and the stage is set! The best man will make sure that the groom is there in plenty of time! The photographer will be in attendance to take photographs of the groom, best man and ushers before the arrival of the bride. The groom and best man enter the church and sit on the right hand side of the aisle looking toward the altar and wait for the arrival of the bride. The best man must check he has not forgotten the rings and all is in order. When the organist starts to play the music for the arrival of the bride, both the best man and the groom must take their place standing at the front of the church. He can then turn and watch his future bride make her entrance down the aisle, to finally become his wife.
Given the fact that the bride is going to be primarily the center of attention for the day, it must be remembered that the groom is very important, too. The roles are equally important for the groom as well as the bride, this is a marriage of two. Not negating the role of the groom, many times the ushers and the best man pick up a lot of the slack. This makes the life of the groom much easier, as elevates a great deal of stress where it is not really needed. Give the time to ensure your role is set and you know exactly what your role really is, this will keep you ready and prepared for the big day, and have you set for the live you are about to embark on.
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